when founded: 1935
where: akron, ohio
who: bill wilson, a NY stockbroker
: dr. bob smith, an Akron surgeon
method:
> the 12-step recovery program from chemical dependency
> major steps
-- admitting you are powerless over alcohol --
that your life has become unmanageable
-- believing that a power greater than yourself
could restore you to sanity
-- making a list of all persons you have harmed, &
-- becoming willing to make amends to them all.
"AA is no success story in the ordinary sense of the word.
it is a story of suffering transmuted, under grace, into
spiritual progress."
- bill wison, co-founder of AA
source: xpress (2007 may 17), p. 10. "sober celebration."
cf: www.aa.org
Monday, August 27, 2007
workaholism, intro
> the problem:
workaholism refers to a "tendency to spend to much time & get too great a reward at work at the expense of famly & personal life."
> proposed solutions:
- schedule your time
- force social interaction
- take time for health
- make time for short breaks
- "sharpen the saw"
---physical: exercise, nutririon, rest
---social/emotional : social & intimate connections with others
---mental: reading, learning, writing
---spiritual: connecting with nature, meditating, prayer, service
- set & review goals
"...i was letting the important things pass by me. taking the time &
spending my energy with the truly important parts of my life
(principally my wife, my family & my spiritual life) i have become
much more productive in my career & found greater joy in my
human existence."
-wayne parker
http://fatherhood.about.com/od/workingfathers/a/workaholism.htm
workaholism refers to a "tendency to spend to much time & get too great a reward at work at the expense of famly & personal life."
> proposed solutions:
- schedule your time
- force social interaction
- take time for health
- make time for short breaks
- "sharpen the saw"
---physical: exercise, nutririon, rest
---social/emotional : social & intimate connections with others
---mental: reading, learning, writing
---spiritual: connecting with nature, meditating, prayer, service
- set & review goals
"...i was letting the important things pass by me. taking the time &
spending my energy with the truly important parts of my life
(principally my wife, my family & my spiritual life) i have become
much more productive in my career & found greater joy in my
human existence."
-wayne parker
http://fatherhood.about.com/od/workingfathers/a/workaholism.htm
workaholism, antidote
Re: workaholism, antidote; 3-step process
Fr: james Adonis, work-life coach, 7Days (2007 June 26). “The pursuit of happiness,” p. 6. (underscore mine)
1. PRIORITIZE: decide what the most important thing is in your life.
Ex: family, friends, health, wealth, work
2. WORK TOWARDS YORU PRIORITY: identify barriers preventing you from achieving your goals and how you can work around them
3. FOLLOW THROUGH: follow through until you achieve
“work/life balance is a decision we make. we either decide we want to see people socially once or twice a week, or we don’t. we decide the world won’t end if we leave work on time, or we continue to work late. we choose to exercise or we choose not to.”
Fr: james Adonis, work-life coach, 7Days (2007 June 26). “The pursuit of happiness,” p. 6. (underscore mine)
1. PRIORITIZE: decide what the most important thing is in your life.
Ex: family, friends, health, wealth, work
2. WORK TOWARDS YORU PRIORITY: identify barriers preventing you from achieving your goals and how you can work around them
3. FOLLOW THROUGH: follow through until you achieve
“work/life balance is a decision we make. we either decide we want to see people socially once or twice a week, or we don’t. we decide the world won’t end if we leave work on time, or we continue to work late. we choose to exercise or we choose not to.”
sexual abuse, clergy
"... the reformation itself was not so much about theology, but morals among clergy
or lack thereof. some priests were living in open relationships with women and some
church historians believe the pope himself may have fathered children.
"... one study found that 12% of the 300 protestant clergy surveyed admitted sexual
relations with parishioners (r.a. blackman, unpublished ph.d. dissertation, fuller theological seminary, 1984).
"... pastors are in a unique role in terms of trust, charisma, patriarchal privilege, and power. they are often viewed as 'god's representative,' whose
authority are also above reproach. concomitant with the position is a sense of trustworthiness and moral admiration that may be embellished by personal
charisma and charm.... if the church does not monitor itself, who will?"
- rev. les wicker (01/10/2007), senior pastor, first congregational church of naples, FL (florida). "is there a double standard for clergy?"
http://www.zwire.com/site/news.cfm? ERD=2605&dept_id=592840&newsid=17688826&PAG=461&rfi=9
or lack thereof. some priests were living in open relationships with women and some
church historians believe the pope himself may have fathered children.
"... one study found that 12% of the 300 protestant clergy surveyed admitted sexual
relations with parishioners (r.a. blackman, unpublished ph.d. dissertation, fuller theological seminary, 1984).
"... pastors are in a unique role in terms of trust, charisma, patriarchal privilege, and power. they are often viewed as 'god's representative,' whose
authority are also above reproach. concomitant with the position is a sense of trustworthiness and moral admiration that may be embellished by personal
charisma and charm.... if the church does not monitor itself, who will?"
- rev. les wicker (01/10/2007), senior pastor, first congregational church of naples, FL (florida). "is there a double standard for clergy?"
http://www.zwire.com/site/news.cfm? ERD=2605&dept_id=592840&newsid=17688826&PAG=461&rfi=9
a dyslexia case
july 31, 2007
today, i interviewed a 30-year old british construction manager. he admitted to me during the interview that he had dyslexia as a child, when asked about his weakness. he said that when he was 6-7 years old, his teacher suspected him to be dyslexic and referred him to a specialist who diagnosed him to be so and was given special tutorials. he was able to be independent of these specials lessons on how to read by age 10-11.
he told me that as a dyslexic, he processes reading materials differently from others and was taught techniques to cope accordingly. he had to practice reading and writing more than his classmates.
the effect on him up to now is being SLOW TO READ compared to others, like going over the long psychological tests i gave him. i also noticed that most of his writing on the information sheet were written in printed form rather than script and looked a bit crude.
when growing up, he realized math was just easier and more understandable to him than literature. thus, he became a construction manager.
reflection:
i cited this case here because i and my psychologist wife have been wondering whether our youngest son, angel, has dyslexia. he doesn't like writing, is one of the last to finish copying from the board, and even doesn't like going to school. not wanting to go to school and being left without a companion can be part of separation anxiety (childhood anxiety disorder, which is another possible diagnosis). my wife, who has 6 units of special education in the doctoral level, has been trying her best to assist him cope. she has also given him a standarized IQ test and came out average. however, i still insist on referring him to specialists for a more objective assessment. we are in the process of doing that.
today, i interviewed a 30-year old british construction manager. he admitted to me during the interview that he had dyslexia as a child, when asked about his weakness. he said that when he was 6-7 years old, his teacher suspected him to be dyslexic and referred him to a specialist who diagnosed him to be so and was given special tutorials. he was able to be independent of these specials lessons on how to read by age 10-11.
he told me that as a dyslexic, he processes reading materials differently from others and was taught techniques to cope accordingly. he had to practice reading and writing more than his classmates.
the effect on him up to now is being SLOW TO READ compared to others, like going over the long psychological tests i gave him. i also noticed that most of his writing on the information sheet were written in printed form rather than script and looked a bit crude.
when growing up, he realized math was just easier and more understandable to him than literature. thus, he became a construction manager.
reflection:
i cited this case here because i and my psychologist wife have been wondering whether our youngest son, angel, has dyslexia. he doesn't like writing, is one of the last to finish copying from the board, and even doesn't like going to school. not wanting to go to school and being left without a companion can be part of separation anxiety (childhood anxiety disorder, which is another possible diagnosis). my wife, who has 6 units of special education in the doctoral level, has been trying her best to assist him cope. she has also given him a standarized IQ test and came out average. however, i still insist on referring him to specialists for a more objective assessment. we are in the process of doing that.
eating disorders, new trend
"... eating disorders ... have long been considered diseases of the young, but experts say in recent years more women have been seeking help in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and older....
"... people who study eating disorders suggest several reasons ....
> growing public awareness,
> social pressure to be thin, and
> an aging group of baby boomers.
"... while BODY IMAGE is an issue for any age group,
women over 30 are dealing with problems that teens don't have, such as
> work,
> divorce,
> stepchildren and
> aging parents."
-- source: forleti, a. (associated press).
"doctors treating older anorexics."
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070723/ap_on_he_me/diet_eating_disorders_midlife
"... people who study eating disorders suggest several reasons ....
> growing public awareness,
> social pressure to be thin, and
> an aging group of baby boomers.
"... while BODY IMAGE is an issue for any age group,
women over 30 are dealing with problems that teens don't have, such as
> work,
> divorce,
> stepchildren and
> aging parents."
-- source: forleti, a. (associated press).
"doctors treating older anorexics."
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070723/ap_on_he_me/diet_eating_disorders_midlife
payer in depression
"why should i still live? but if it is not pleasing to you, o lord, to take my life,
hear me in my disgrace."
- sarah (tobit 3:15b)
hear me in my disgrace."
- sarah (tobit 3:15b)
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